I read this several years ago and it has stuck with me. I have thought of it often. It's a lovely perspective by which to be appreciative and grateful.
There is too little courtship in the world. For courtship means a wish to stand well in the other person's eyes, and, what is more, a readiness to be pleased with the other's ways; a sense on each side having had the better of the bargain; an under current of surprise and thankfulness at one's good luck.Vernon Lee
In Praise of Courtship
Hortus Vitae (1904)