29 July 2014

A Quick Peek At the Cost Plus Clearance Shelves

Last night I had about an hour to kill. I'd been out all day and didn't want to go home and then drive back out a few minutes later. So I decided to stop by Cost Plus World Market and do some window shopping for a while.

I thought it would be a good opportunity to get ideas for dining tables and chairs, light fixtures and other things for that "new home" that I have up my sleeve and we have in our future. I didn't get far when I turned the corner and ran into the clearance shelves. I was stopped in my tracks by visions of orange and bright color combinations. I am such a sucker for them even though I try to be so neutral. I think my neutrals are really just a base for all my bright colors in the end.

Loved this green, white and red/orange pillow. It feels of India to me. Which is where my very lovely sister is right now. You can follow her awesome service trip & adventures on Instagram here. Let's just saw before she even got to India her trip had already turned into a pretty insane adventure...And now yoga on a rooftop overlooking the Ganges. Are you kiddin' me?! I have another India connection swirling around right now too that is inspiring me. More on that another day I hope.

Fuschsia and orange, another favorite combo. I see these two pillows working it together with a solid fabric friend (maybe cream colored rough woven linen?) on a sofa somewhere in my life. 
Mmm, yummy.

Lastly if you have a patio umbrella that needs a little upstyling from the blah beige fabric it came with check out the clearance aisle for these brightly colored umbrella canopies. There were varying sizes, colors and patterns. That would sass up the deck and your next dinner party, wouldn't it!

I had a great walk through the window treatments section. They have a lot of draperies that I very much liked. I would be very interested in several of them for that future living place. There was also a nice selection of rugs and runners too.

After this I started over to the lighting section and just as I saw a hanging light fixture that completely excited me I got a call from The Man and had to leave immediately because our time schedule had changed. I turned and left right then without ever getting a good look at that great light fixture. Needless to say I have a return visit on my agenda next time I am in that neighborhood. I didn't even get over to the furniture and art sections.

I feel happy for the shoppers who will get these great clearance items. Fifty percent off is a serious end of summer retail season sale. Good stuff. Watch your favorite retailers for end of summer savings right now. It's time for them to clear the shelves and pretend it's winter. Just think, Christmas stuff will be appearing in just a few weeks! Crazeeeeeey.

P.S. Speaking of the holidays. I still haven't given a blink of thought to Christmas gifts for this year. What will I make???? Hmmmm. It's almost August people. Time to get cooking on that.

28 July 2014

Now Is My Time #28: Stop Overusing "I'm Sorry"

Last week I was at the beach, playing Smashball. It was windy and we had a tough go of actually getting the ball back and forth to each other. I found myself saying "I'm sorry," or "Sorry about that" after every hit. My playing partner, who was a man didn't ever say sorry once for a ball that didn't quite reach me. He didn't need to. What bothered me was hearing myself apologizing to an annoying extent and I realized that this is something that is a bit of a bad habit. Over apologizing fo things that I have no control over.

I think many women do this. We say sorry many times a day when we almost bump into people in tight spaces or on blind turns in stores, on sidewalks, etc. We find a million things to apologize for that really don't require an apology. I have had several situations lately where people have apologized to me on sidewalks, in stores, etc. where no apology was necessary. They didn't do anything wrong.

This happens often when my kiddo is not paying attention and bumps into people or when she's standing in the middle of someone else's way. The other party, trying to pass but having a hard time of it often apologizes to me. I always reply with an automatized "No problem," or "No worries." but really they certainly need not apologize for my child causing them to have to step out of her way.

Appropriately placed apologies are an important if we are going to have peace and relationships in life. But getting into the habit of saying sorry for things that don't matter or really aren't our fault seems a little useless and silly. I think when women over-apologize for things, particularly around men, it also weakens their position, competency and leadership ability.

This article by Meredith LaPore speaks to that exact issue. I love the suggestion she gives to rephrase the sentiment rather than saying "I'm sorry." Genius! There is also some great insight into how men and women view and use apology differently and it's not because guys don't feel remorse.

Here is another great story, from Salon, by Kylah Goodfellow Klinge about the social use and meanings of "I'm sorry." It's such an interesting topic!

Anyway, after hearing myself say "I'm sorry" a ridiculous number of times while playing ball with a boy I decided I am going to start using that phrase with more meaning, intention and thought. I don't have to apologize for everything that is imperfect in the world. I certainly don't have to point out that I'm not the world's greatest Smashball player by apologizing EVERY time I swing my paddle. This is my year to quite being an "over-apologizer."

* Now Is My Time is an initiative I set for myself for 2014. Each week I've written about goals and plans I'm making this year to put myself and self-care at the forefront of my life. You can learn more here.


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